In order to keep things enjoyable for those who attend our parties, we do have some guidelines that we expect all of our members, as consenting adults, to abide by:

The Golden Rule: “NO Means NO.” Anyone (yourself included) may say “NO” at any time for any reason, without further explanation. Experience has taught most people that everybody is not right for everybody. Saying “No” should be done with a simple “No, thank you.” Never give an explanation because that is what usually causes problems and hurt feelings. Don't forget that people's attitudes can change with time and the situation. Who knows? Maybe sometime in the future you may meet again with a different outcome

Be Courteous. Be aware that this is a lifestyle full of insecurities, uncertainties and fears. Courteously is how we all want to be treated – with kindness, thoughtfulness, understanding, and sensitivity. In essence, courtesy is our treating people the way we ourselves want to be treated. 

Be Friendly. Whether or not you are personally interested in being with someone be polite. You never know, you may share many other interests or you may meet that person again, and they may introduce you to someone with whom you ARE compatible and wish to share time. After all, this is a party!!! Besides, you don't want to be rude or judgmental because you wouldn't want it to happen to you.

Relax and Get Acquainted. Once you have become familiar with the surroundings and host/hostess, try to become as at ease as you would be at any other social gathering. Don't hesitate to introduce yourselves to other people. You'll find them eager to welcome you and to help you blend into their circle of sincere camaraderie.

Respect Others Feelings. Beware, not everyone is comfortable in all situations. Keep your eyes open for signs that your partner, as well as others, are relaxed and enjoying themselves. If someone is not comfortable, try helping him or her over the rough spots. If it is obvious that things are not working out, remain polite and courteous; and alert the host. Keep in mind that not all people feel the same about things.

Don't Be Pushy. If you are interested in “partying” with someone let him or her know in an inviting way. If they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are not and say “No, thank you,” do not ask WHY. No amount of sweet talk or coercion on your part will change their mind and will probably work against you. Everyone has the right to say “NO” at all times, to anyone, without explanation. Do not ever forget that.

Couples: Deal with Jealousy Head-On! It’s a normal, human reaction. Learn what triggers jealousy in yourself and in your partner. Then work things out. This may mean modifying certain activities, curtailing others or finding new means of sexual expression. Take time to stroke your partner’s ego. Touch bases with each other often, so that you both feel secure. Always arrive together. Honor any and all prior understandings. Always leave together. Your relationship together is not worth risking for the Lifestyle.

Attending as a Single. If you are a man or woman attending the party solo, it is important to be sensitive to and respectful of the relationship that a couple has with each other. Keep relationships friendly and pleasant. Always propose never impose! “No still means No.”

Respond to All Invitations. RSVP means please reply to the invitation. It does NOT mean reply only if you plan to attend. The most frustrating part of hosting, be it a party, a group or another couple, is people who are discourteous enough to not respond, PERIOD. Good etiquette and good social courtesy DEMANDS you respond, by either calling or writing to say YES or NO.

Go Prepared. Take whatever you personally are going to need with you. Carry a small overnight bag for lingerie or robe, hairbrush, comb, toothbrush, cologne, intimate cleansing articles, condoms, etc. If you have previously been invited to stay over, sleeping bags or blankets and pillows are necessities.

Cleanliness. Nothing turns a person off faster and more effectively than an unclean body or bad breath. Even if you shower and perfume yourself before you leave home it is always a good idea to freshen up again when you arrive at your destination. It is amazing what driving somewhere, stopping for a bite, or whatever, did do or rather UNDO.

Practice Safer Sex. It is up to us to protect ourselves as well as our partners. With the present concern over sexually transmitted diseases such as syphilis, gonorrhea, AIDS, yeast infection, etc., the use of condoms should not offend anybody. Anyone not willing to take this precaution is acting selfishly and irresponsibly. You are not being accused of being unclean. Simply someone wishes to be responsible and provide you both with protection.

Alcohol and Drugs. Most of us do not use drugs, although some of us drink socially. At times, a few drinks are nice to help you “relax.” Over-indulging may hamper your physical abilities, as well as offend or turn other people off to you. If you have to over indulge in order to participate, you are involved in the wrong lifestyle. Absolutely NO ILLEGAL DRUGS are permitted at our parties. If you are found to be using any type of illegal substance at the parties, you will be asked to leave and your membership to the club will be revoked!

Enjoy Yourself. Most important, have a good time, act out your fantasies, explore your own sexuality and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer with enthusiasm, laughter, and a positive attitude.

Currently, 85 % of the Males and 42 % of the Females (Note that this does NOT include couples!!!) who are members of the club are married, or have a 'significant other', and they do not know about their involvement within our group.

This is the single-most asked question of people who want to attend our parties. The Black Cock Society  prides itself in maintaining a membership base that includes professionals from all walks of life-- Athletes, Entertainers, Lawyers, Doctors, and the list goes on. Because this is the internet, and there are many individuals out there who are so infatuated with playing games, there are certain measures we must take in order to weed out those who are serious about the lifestyle, and those that are merely online to have an adventure at the expense of others.

As all of our current members can attest to, they are much more comfortable knowing that those whom they are partying with have been pre-screened and selected in a manner that most suites the collective interests of this private club. Remember, TheSouthern California Mandingo Club is EXCLUSIVE and not INCLUSIVE.  The information you provide in your application is kept confidential and is never shared with any third parties. We hope this answers your question in a brief and concise manner.

There isn't a correct answer for this question. You must take this into consideration- Everybody who is in this lifestyle began somewhere. Whether it was at a private party, a special occasion that just happened, or whether it was a planned event that led them to enjoy the lifestyle, there was a moment in time where the Swing Lifestyle was foreign to all of us. If you are new to the Swing Lifestyle, we welcome you with open arms and are more than willing to help you in your transition into a more enjoyable way of expressing your sexuality insofar as you are open-minded and willing to learn about the lifestyle.

There will always be a section where no cameras are allowed but keep in mind all of our swing parties are videotaped/photographed by only one individuals such as the groups founder or husbands who enjoy filming there wives. In this lifestyle, more often than not, people tend to be not only active Swingers, but exhibitionists as well. All the footage captured at the parties founder is always edited out and faces and defining body features are excluded from the final image (Unless you sign a model release stating otherwise that you want your face showing) and we try to take footage from the neck down.

You don't have to worry about your identity being revealed as we always ensure that nobody, but those who were present with you while the footage was taken, can identify you as the person in the pictures. At all of our events, prior to entering, there is a General Model Release stipulating the extent of the use of the footage (Footage is ONLY used on our website) and stating that you give us the right to publish any footage on our site insofar as your identity is concealed (IE, blurring out faces and tattoos on all footage). We hope that this answers this question for you as much as possible.